No matter how rough your marriage has been lately, you aren’t ready to call it quits. Your spouse, however, already has one foot out the door. They’ve asked you for a divorce.

What can you do? Below are some suggestions and some information you need to know about divorces in Georgia.

You can ask your spouse to give counseling a try

Sometimes people run from a situation because they can’t see how it could improve. Couples counseling can make sure that you and your spouse at least have a few frank discussions about what you each believe is wrong in the marriage. The communication may be the key to resolving your differences without a divorce.

You can work on yourself

You should never try to change who you are to suit a partner — but you do need to occasionally “check-in” on yourself and see if you’re happy with your personal development. By focusing on yourself (not the marriage), you may find yourself becoming happier and more self-confident. That happiness may have a positive effect on your marriage, as well — and it can help you avoid the trap of being codependent on your spouse.

You have to accept the inevitable

Maybe your spouse is willing to try to make things work, maybe not. Either way, if your spouse insists on going forward with the divorce, there’s not much you can do. In Georgia, spouses can file for a divorce due to the “irretrievable breakdown” of the marriage without laying blame or “fault” at the other spouse’s feet.

You can’t force your spouse to remain in the marriage. You can (and should), however, do everything in your power to make sure that you get a fair split of the marital assets in the divorce. Find out more about your legal rights.